We've all heard this line before: "I just don't feel like I fit in here." Well, that's how I view this Cincinnati area. It seems to be a dull race to have kids and to "let yourself go." I don't mean this on solely the physical appearance level either. It seems that everyone wants to focus on a relationship or a child before dealing with herself-- until it's usually too late. Maybe this is my own skewed personal perception of this area. However, I see so many professional females only aspiring to a marriage and a minivan, complacent with their role in the work place. I come across only a small handful of women who are ambitious and rigorous in their quest for a well-rounded lifestyle.
Maybe I've been reading my magazines too much, but it seems like there are women out there [somewhere] who want to cultivate themselves-- to be fit, healthy, successful, fashionable, and who may or may not be dating. What's with the baby rush? The economy is forboding, let alone, children are so expensive anyway. Why not wait until your 30s to have children? Yeah, there's always that nagging biological clock, but still-- is it not just as important that you are able to truly provide for your child while retaining a sense of personal fulfillment??
I guess it's just a difference of goals. I want to be known as ambitious and glamourous, not as a frumpy mom who settled into a permanent career at 26. I don't mean to be the least cruel when I say that. I feel that I am being totally honest. I see some women use children as excuses to be lazy with themselves. (If this does not apply to you, then do not take offense). Not that rearing children or maintaining a household is in the least bit easy. I know. I do have a house and a dog who thinks he's human (but yes, i realize he is still a dog and eons different than a child). But what about YOUR dreams, Mrs? Why did you give up on yourself and what you wanted? I don't care how intellectual or involved in your children you may claim to be, but everyone cares about their personal appearance. Everyone wants to feel attractive and good about themselves. Do you really know anyone without a mirror in her house???
I definitely don't want to be misinterpreted here. I love children, i think families are wonderful. I pray to someday be blessed with children myself. I just wish I could reach out to younger females especially and encourage them to take their time- to figure out who they are first and foremost. To establish themselves, to define their roles in life. To travel, to pursure their hobbies... And, then, bring a child into this more balanced, well-rounded lifestyle. I suppose this is solely my personal opinion and my idea of utopia. I also hear the people that say that no time is perfect to have a child. And, hey, maybe that is the beauty of the circle of life. You must evolve with the things that are sometimes unexpected or unplanned.
Either way, I guess my point is that I just want to see more happy, fulfilled mothers out there... maybe I'm searching for more role model mothers that fit my personal ideal of the type of mother I want to be. And I also want to see younger women giving themselves the chance to live life a little before they try to give life to another. Turn off the teenage pregnancy shows. It upsets me that this is "entertainment" or "reality." Giving birth to a child is one of the most precious and awesome gifts one could possibly receive in this lifetime... I could never be so cavalier about giving life without knowing myself more, so that I may give the best of me to that child.
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